making a statement

With all the chaos and destruction I have seen lately I am both confused and disgusted with people.  And its not just this year.  It seems that chaos and destruction are commonplace in the month of April:  Waco, Columbine, Hitler’s birthday –and now the Boston Marathon.  I don’t know what it is about the coming of Spring and “new beginnings” for whacko people in this world.  I can’t even fathom what “statement” the Boston bomber(s) was trying to make.  Even in my most remote imagination I can’t find the justice of revenge of killing or wounding innocent people.  And that’s exactly what those people were:  innocent.  Its nauseating to think that someone somewhere is smiling at the devastation they brought upon people that were merely enjoying a nice spring day.

Maybe it was a Patriots Day symbolic bombing that is a “down with the USA” statement but after Sept 11, 2001 people should know the Patriotic nature of Americans cannot be daunted or shut down.  And seriously, attack Boston? How much more Patriotic can you get than Boston?  Attacking that city is just going to bring for more Unification of Americans than anything– heck it almost ended the bitter rivalry between the Red Sox and the Yankees via Neil Diamond and if that ain’t unification I don’t know what is.  Plus, when Americans get unified and really pissed off — well, ask Afghanistan or Japan what happens.  It ain’t pretty.

I still can’t understand the “statement” being made by a cowardly individual or group in the Boston bombing.  That’s exactly what that act was– cowardly, stupid, senseless and juvenile.   If you feel so strongly about something then take action to fix it, not tear it down or piss it off.  History has shown us time and time again that when violence begets violence nothing is solved or resolved.  One violent act “deserves” retaliation that is bigger badder and better than the violent act of the primary offender.  This is a viscous cycle that doesn’t end because a small, cowardly person or group stays pissed off fighting a war they will never win.  Just ask the Irish Catholics and Protestants — they believe in the SAME PEACEFUL GOD and they still can’t stop the vengeance.

Violence never made sense to me.  Maybe because as a mom and a nurse I make a statement everyday.  I make a powerful statement that may go unnoticed but is never the less is the most important statement of my life.  I care. I care for my family, my friends and my community.

I care enough to give myself to raise another human being to be a good person.  I care enough to protect that person(s) from cold, hunger, illiteracy, bullying, and senseless violence.  I care enough to build the world from the ground up by raising a child as a self respecting, God loving, caring individual who will hopefully repeat the cycle I have taught.  The act of caring. 

I care enough to provide for and nurture my kids so hopefully they won’t feel the need to make a “statement” that would cause harm to the innocent and I do it day in, day out, 24/7, 365. Because no “statement” is worth the lives of people who are at work, at play or happen to be on the wrong street at the wrong time.  Nobody is proving anything with these “statements”.  You hate America — ok.  That’s fine.  Don’t live here, don’t accept our beliefs of personal freedom and individuality and don’t watch American Idol.  Do your thing to make you happy.  Wander the desert, climb a mountain, build a business or better yourself with prayer of the God you chose to be yours.  Don’t take your personal hatred  and cast it out to the world.  That’s senseless and it proves nothing.  The World Trade Center is rebuilt with technology to make it stronger than ever and the Boston Marathon will run again next year.  So whatever “statement” that was being made has fallen on deaf ears but the innocent had to pay.  The “statement” was senseless, stupid and downright cowardly.

The statement of caring cures more than the statement of violence ever will.  Caring will prevail.  Because in the wake of every one of these “statements” heroes emerge.  People find things in themselves they might not have known were there.  They may find themselves running TO the chaos rather than away because that is where they felt the pull and the need to go. They may save a life and that life may go on to do things far greater than any violent “statement” will ever make.  For every stupid senseless violent “statement” its the heroes that win — they are the limelight of the chaos and destruction.  The “statement” will never ever ever stop the heroes from emerging and showing way more caring than evil.  Even the survivors turn into heroes.  They turn into activists and build caring philanthropic organizations that, in turn, show caring to others who need a helping hand at a critical time.  And the dead, they turn into martyrs for anti-violence campaigns.

My statement of caring thru being a nurse and a mother may go unnoticed by most on a day to day, year to year basis.  Its a grueling task but one I am willing to burden.  Why?  Because I care.  I care more for the future of my kids than I do for a cause.  I have special needs kids who’s cause I could pour myself into for the better of the cause.  That could be my statement but I prefer to pour myself into the cause of my kids to make sure they are the ones who grow up safe, secure and free from any future senseless violent “statements”.  I do my caring personally and professionally day to day in my little corner of the world for the people who’s lives I touch so I can show the world that caring begets caring.  It may not be much, and it may not be World News but I prefer to pay-it-forward for the next generation so their lives have more of a chance of being “statement” free and peaceful.  Now that’s a statement worth making.



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2 Responses to making a statement

  1. Trisha says:

    Thank you for your statement. And thanks to all the moms and “helpers” out there trying to make the world a better place one child, one family, one neighborhood, one classroom, etc. at a time.
    Enjoy your blog.

  2. Shelly says:

    You sit with little girls with broken arms and we love you for it!!

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